Points to ponder

"...A misyar marriage is contracted between a Muslim man and a Muslim woman of some means where the woman is aware of the man's impecunious circumstances and, in return for the marriage, foregoes her traditional right to expect the husband to provide for her upkeep...
The suggestion caused uproar among some Muslim men and women who considered such an arrangement to be demeaning because it made the man looks like an Islamic stud and the woman sex-hungry. But it was defended by the President of the Single Mothers' Association of Malaysia as a solution to the problem of women who only wanted the “protection” of a “mature and responsible” man. As the woman can provide for herself in every other respect, the husband's ability to feed and clothe her is unimportant. And such marriages have not been unknown – several women in her own family were married to men with lesser incomes.
I agree that Malays should utilize their time and energy on solving problems of academic, social and economic under-achievement. Leave misyar alone. It is not new, it has been practiced at least 1,400 years since the Prophet Mohammad, peace be upon him, married Khatijatul Kubra.
It is not necessarily about sex; that's why many Muslim women are still single. They want the right partner – mature and responsible who can be a good husband although not an ideal provider. Otherwise they would have married just about anyone. I know a number of Malay women who have had a number of suitors with anyone of whom they would have gladly set up house but their over-choosy parents had turned down these suitors and the daughters are too filial to disobey..."

I came across these comments made by Tun Hanif Omar in yesterday Star newspaper. He is totally right; Malaysians should be stopped in being brought to this kind of information to their mind. Do we need to worsen the statistics of divorces among Malays as it is now? Aren't there any more vital concerns that need our attention to be focused on for better future to young generations for future prosperity? Judging from this disappointment, it should be cleared hat this coming from a 'still single career woman" and I totally uncomfortable with the suggestions despite polygamy had been practiced since forever.

I hope men do not see this as another excuses to relieve those lusts that seems never enough, and women to not feel depreciated of being a woman… We deserve everything and anything better if not equal treatment. We do! God help us.